‘My wife used to feel marginalized, until…’ – Yusof Haslam

‘My wife used to feel marginalized, until…’ – Yusof Haslam

WHEN his son, director Syamsul Yusof is faced with an unending domestic problem with his wife, Puteri Sarah, a famous art employee, Datuk Yusof Haslam shares about the journey and ups and downs of his marriage with Datin Fatimah Ismail.

The owner of the giant production house Skop Production said he and his wife will celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary this May.

Even though the marriage age has entered 40 years, Yusof plans to hold a ceremony to celebrate his still intact marriage as well as an Aidilfitri celebration.

“God willing, I am planning to celebrate my 40th wedding anniversary next month, simultaneously with the Hari Raya Aidilfitri ceremony. We want to cut the 40th wedding cake,” he said .

Recalling his four-decade marriage with Fatimah, Yusof admitted that at the beginning of the marriage, he used to make his wife feel distant and left out.

“I remember when I was young, I was busy working to develop, establish and fight for a newly established company, my wife used to feel marginalized because she rarely saw each other.

“I always come back, the children are already asleep. Of course the wife feels angry and rebellious when the husband is always away and busy.

“But I have to think about my responsibilities as a husband and father. My wife is upset, I have to clarify the situation. Husbands and wives have to be good at taking care of each other,” Yusof said at length.

Asked how he became a ship captain who managed to sail for 40 years without sinking, Yusof admitted that marriage is not an easy journey.

However, it can survive if the husband and wife are wise to take care of each other’s feelings.

“In marriage, both the husband and the wife play a role. Must take care of each other’s feelings.

“If there is an argument, resolve it quickly. To find peace in life, apologize. The husband is wrong, apologize. The wife is wrong, sorry. Apologize, there is no loss,” ordered Yusof.

He added, if the husband is guilty and apologizes, a man’s dignity will not fall by apologizing.

In fact, this 68-year-old figure is also not ashamed to admit that if there is an argument or if he makes his wife feel bad, he will quickly solve the problem.

“Get rid of the ego. The husband’s dignity does not fall when he apologizes. We, as God’s servants who have everything, let it look great but greatness is given by God’s permission.

“If something goes wrong, apologize, that’s the stronghold in the household,” said Yusof.

“If only the wife takes the husband’s heart, but the husband does not take the wife’s heart, for me, resentment will last long, if the wife is left to be resentful without being persuaded, the problem will not be solved,” he said.

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